I Just Can’t. . .

Hello friends!

I have been so busy with life. I feel like each time I post, I always say that I’ll try to do better about posting more, and the intention is there; but the time isn’t.

Today was hard, and that’s an understatement.

I work a full-time job, another job on monday nights after work, and also for an auctioneer as needed to run his office during sales. Today he had a sale, and I showed up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed first thing this morning and was ready to work. I got to about 2pm today and decided I needed a nap. However that was not an option. So, I pressed on. A ten-hour work shift later and 35 minute drive home and I still hadn’t done my daily work out challenge, gone to the grocery, or gotten to catch up on General Conference for my church. You can watch for your self if your interested here. https://www.lds.org/general-conference/sessions/2015/04?lang=eng

I want you to think about when you don’t work out for 7 months, and you start back up. You’re body just does not cooperate. Everything hurts. I just started back again on Thursday  and on top of working out, I have a daily challenge. Thursdays challenge was 50 squats, 15 sec wall sit, 15 sec plank. Yesterday’s challenge was 60 squats, 30 sec wall sit, 30 sec plank. . .  which brinhttp://www.mormon.orggs us to today, tonight really. Todays challenge is 75 squats, 1 min wall sit, 30 sec plank. Let me remind you that I JUST started working out again Thursday. MY body is literally jello. Not wanting to cooperate even with walking, I almost have to crawl going up 5 steps to get in to my house. . .  yes it is hilarious to watch, I would laugh myself but everything hurts. I thought to myself I can’t do anything, let alone 75 squats!

But I recently saw a Nike slogan that said, “Dont let you, stop you”.

And I didn’t. I rode my dirt bike to the back of the property next to the pond. Focused on relaxing and stretching, and I did 75 “Bleeping” squats. . . A little tid bit you should know is that if your really sore and ride your dirt bike to beyond sight anyone can see, have 20 min of forcing yourself to use every bit of energy you have left into this “daily challenge”, you will not be able to start your dirt bike, your will borderline cry, you will pray to God to help you start it, he will, and then you will pull yourself back together.

Dont’ stand in your own way. Free yourself!

Friends, if you want to work out – do it. Don’t let the pain stop you. What ever it is that is standing in your way of what you’re trying to accomplish wether it be tackling the laundry in your house, or going back to school, or paying off a car. Whatever it is. Don’t settle for working toward your goal another day. Start today.

I know that I have faith in myself to do or become what ever it is I am meant to be. But it is because I have strong faith in my creator that I am who I am. God is so good. Even when you have so much on your plate and you feel like you just can’t handle it. God can, and he can help you. It is my testimony that as we follow Gods commandments for us, and are obedient to him and what he asks of us, our faith will grow. He will see into our heart and change our lives, if we let him. I have faith in myself, because I have faith in him. If you would like to learn more about my church, you can do so here, http://www.mormon.org you can also find a church near you here https://www.lds.org/maps/?lang=eng&cid=HP14FAM#ll=2.445203,-0.879988&z=6&m=google.road&tools=help

with love,

Tara

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It’s okay to be done.

Hey friends,

I have been super busy with life, as I am sure you all are too. I have a new addition to our family! He is 13 weeks old, German Shepherd/Husky mix “with a hint of chow” whatever that means. His name is Grisley!

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I am personally having a hard time with this topic in particular, and I thought these picture’s were perfect.

Lets give this person a “name”… I’ll go with Gretchen.

We all have a Gretchen don’t we. We all have that one person or could be a few people that we try really hard to be friends with. For whatever reason, we try to build long lasting friendships and always end up feeling used, abused, unappreciated or whatever it is for you. But, we all have a Gretchen in our lives at some point.

Personally, with my Gretchen I have tried and tried and tried and I am not going to put myself through it anymore. I have been through so much stress and hurt by trying to be in “Gretchen’s” life and honestly, I am just flat out done.

Don’t get me wrong, I would never say bad things about “Gretchen,” or be mean to her or judge her in any way for treating me like she does; because that’s not who I am and its no ones place to judge another for any reason, that is God’s job. I will continue to be nice and polite when I see her, however I am not obligated to have a relationship with this person. So why am I beating myself up over it? Why am I trying so hard? Why wont I give up?

The answer is: that’s just who I am. I want to try my hardest and never give up on anyone, especially a person. However, I think its finally time to raise my white flags.

I would like to leave you with some original quotes.

” There comes a point in life, where you need to look at yourself and say : I don’t deserve this.  It’s okay to be done. Its okay to stop trying. “

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” Be kind to others, but more importantly, be kind to yourself. “

A motto in my life that I have always lived by is have no regrets. I can honestly sit back and name countless times I have really tried, and I mean I tried with all my might to be friends/build a friendship with Gretchen. In the future I can look back and say I will not regret this decision to be done, and to stop trying. I am someone who constantly looks at the bigger picture, its a blessing and a curse. It keeps my eyes ahead  but also makes it hard to live “in the moment”.

Friends, I am always here for you. If there are any topics anyone would like me to post on please comment below. I hope this blog helps you in some way. I know it has helped me get through some tough times and I share my experiences and lessons learned with you all. I hope I can help someone else learn from my lessons in life, so they don’t have to go through them as well.

With Love,

Tara

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It’s been a while. . .

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Hello friend, its been a while hasn’t it? I’ve been very busy with lots going on in my life. However, to be completley honest (whichI always have been when writing) I’m not doing the greatest right now. I could humor you with a pitty party for myself, but i’ll save you the trouble of trying to follow along what all is possibly going wrong. However  when I laid down togo to sleep tonight, I found myself praying tonight for an easier battle, for a better day tomorrow, to feel better, to feel uplifted, to not have to fight so damn hard all the time (it seems).

But I would like to focus on my first request of my heavenly father… for an easier battle.

How many times have I prayed for this latley? Too many to count. But for some reason tonight I was thinking that maybe I should be greatful for this battle, or like what seems to be 15 battles made into one.

I should be grateful that I have the knowledge of the Gospel to help me get through tough times and low places.

Friend, I am going to pray for both of us tonight, for better tomorrows, and to see ourselves as he (God) see’s us.

As I sit here in my bed tonight, while my husband is asleep laying next to me, I came to the realization that I have everything I will ever need right here in my bed. Okay, for you sticklers, no I couldn’t survive a week with the items in my bed, heck, I might make it a few days before starvation killed me.

However, with God, and my husband by my side, I can survive anything this life throws at me.

With MUCH Love,

Tara

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Let go and let God

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Recently, I have been praying for my future. I’ve been asking what it is that I need to pursue, trying to find my calling in life you could say. To be completely honest, I didn’t hear much other than that this life is about finding happiness. Finding inner peace, and being truly happy. It’s not about your career,  education, or money, but about finding happiness, living for God, and helping others.

You might get a different answer when you pray to find your calling in life. However I have been searching for “my calling” for what seems like a long time now.

However, in the past few years I may have just been searching for what I wanted, what I should be doing as a profession rather than what it is I am supposed to be doing with my life. When you cross that line from praying for what you want to praying for what God wants, you will get answers. That is my experience and testimony.

Recently we bought a house, however we looked at probably 50 houses in various neighborhoods before we purchased this one. We would look at it, and pray to get confirmation that we should buy it. We never heard anything. Then my cousin Rachel, plainly asked me, are you praying for the house God wants you to have, or for the house you want. That night we switched it up, and asked God to lead us to our home. In the next few days my husband found our house online, and we went and looked at it. This house smelled so bad you could not be in it for more than a few minutes at a time. It needed a full gut job and new everything, not something we wanted to tackle on our first home. However when we pulled out of that driveway, I knew immediately that this was our house.

Friends, look to God for guidance; to see his plan for you instead of him helping you with your plan. If you do this, I can promise you you will not be let down.

Jeremiah 29:11 ‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.

With Love,

Tara

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For you, my friend.

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Hello there, how are you? I’m doing well and staying very busy. Sometimes we feel alone or that no one listens to us or really hears what we have to say. Sometimes we feel discarded and abandoned, and even worthless. We feel we have no one to turn to or to help us in our so desperate times of need.

Friend, I’m here to tell you that Jesus hears you, and hopefully I am here to answer a prayer for someone tonight.  I have been praying for inspiration for a topic for new blog post, because I never write without being inspired to do so. Today I finally got it, I need to share my testimony with you.

I have a very strong testimony of Jesus Christ and I hope my testimony can help you in some way. I hope it’s to bring you closer to God but maybe it’s something else your struggling with that I will write about.

Let’s start off where I felt this was what I needed to write about, to now. I have had a busy night watching my nephew and then my nightly routine of showering, blowdrying my hair, washing my face… Which takes time… and where I am, it’s late, I’m tired, I want to go to bed. However, I feel I need to post this tonight and that it is urgent.

I won’t ask why or question my prompting, I will oblige.

Friend, know that everyone’s journey in life is different. We all are brought up differently, we are all different people with different perspectives. But know that God has not forgotten you. He has sent me tonight to stay up past my bedtime to tell you he loves you, like he loves all of his children. He feels your pain and sorrow and wants you to turn to him for help. Friend, heavenly father will never turn his back on you. He knows your not where you want to be and your struggling (with something), he can guide you.

You must put your faith in God that he knows best and the day is not yet over. Pray for things like strength, courage, and try to have a positive attitude. I know that what your going through is really rough, but put your full trust in God and he will carry you through.

Maybe it’s been a while since you’ve prayed, worshiped, or even thought about God… But now is the time to turn to him.

I hope whoever needed this message reads it and it helps you get through until you seek God to bring you up. Know that you can message me if you would like. Just comment with your email address and I will email you.

When I started this blog, I had one mission, to bring others (with myself included) closer to God and to inspire others. Please know that I really enjoy blogging and that I personally pray for my readers so that I will post topics on what it is you want or need to hear.

Friend, I am here for you and your Heavenly Father is too.

Sincerely and with much love,

 

Tara

 

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I Will Choose To Be Graftful

Lately a lot has been going on in our lives. I mean a LOT. For starters…

If you have read the Meet Tara blog post than you would know that me and my husband have just bought a repossessed home from the bank and it needs lots of love. We purchased it in late September and spent the past 3 months busting our butts (along with our family) on the house trying to get as much done as possible so we can move in. In the mean time we are living with my parents and working full time and working on the house when we get off work to try to get it done. However there has been so much going on that no one has been able to work on the house since before Christmas, except for putting in a pocket door in our bathroom. So I feel like it is just going no where.

Justin has worked late every night, working on our vehicles – we had 3 oil changes all due at the same time, tires for 2 vehicles that needed to be put on and his truck needed some front end work done. Which thankfully is all done now except for my car that still needs a tune up, belt and transmission fluid. Ahhh the joys of adulthood.

I feel like it has been since last Sunday that I’ve gotten to see him and just spend time together. I really just miss my husband. I think I could literally just hold him for days.

However, I will choose to be grateful.

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I am grateful that my wonderful husband is such an amazing mechanic that has so much talent in his field and he doesn’t even realize it. I am grateful we had the funds to buy necessary items to properly maintain our vehicles. I am thankful we bought tires for my car back when they were cheap because I needed them badly this week. I am grateful my husband’s father has a large shop with a lift so he can work on our vehicles comfortably.

I am grateful we have a home. We have what is becoming a lovely home and I can’t wait to live there and start a family someday. I am thankful we have my parents who welcomed us back into their home with open arms and are happy to have us living with them. I am thankful for Justin’s parents who are the masterminds on how to remodel our house.

I am thankful for having reliable jobs. I am so grateful that we both love our jobs and enjoy working and can support ourselves. That’s not an easy task in this economy. I am thankful for having steady work and health benefits at our jobs. I am grateful that we like our co-workers, also not an easy task for everyone.

Most importantly I am thankful for my husband. He is such a wonderful man and a caring person. He loves me to the core and I him. I thank the Lord every day and night for him. He is my everything, everything I do is for him, although that sounds cheesy, its true. Our honeymoon will never be over, because we choose love. At all times, when it is so easy to choose frustration or anger, we choose love instead.

I would like to add that we always thank our Heavenly Father for our blessings AND burdens. We are thankful for the burdens because those are what make us stronger and become more thankful people when we overcome them. Just remember all you need to do is pray to ask for Heavenly Fathers help.

I wanted to write to share with my viewers that I am not perfect, I have troubles, and things that happen that bring me down, and get lonely at times. However our outlook is everything. . . You can be happy if you choose to, the situation is the same either way. I often write about topics that I directly struggle with and am working through myself. I just hope my view helps you in some way.

#behappy #begrateful #bethankful

With Love,

Tara

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About my religion / Articles of Faith

Many of you have been wondering what “Mormons” or LDS people believe in. To sum it all up we have 13 “Articles of faith” that describe our religion and they are listed below.

You can get more information here on the articles of faith. Here is a place you can find frequently asked questions about LDS/Mormons. You can also request information about my church and request a free Book of Mormon or Bible here.

As always feel free to ask me questions or leave comments.

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With Love,

Tara

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Creativity Takes Courage

Hello Friends,

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas and New Years! Tis the season for change. We all want to change a multitude of things in our lives don’t we? We might want to change our eating habits, maybe start exercising, saving more money, starting families, buying new cars or houses, maybe grow closer to God, or even start new careers. Everyone wants something different for themselves for the new year. But friends why do we wait until January 1 every year to re-evaluate ourselves? If I am not happy with my life why don’t I re-evaluate it right then instead of waiting? I found a quote I really REALLY like. “It only takes one person to change your life: YOU”.

It seems like we always wait (myself included) for something to come around to change us, for a good sermon at church, for a raise, for anything.  If we want a change in our life we need to reach out and make that change.

For example, I love to paint, I love to help others, and I love to try to be inspiring to help others. So, I started my blog, hoping I could reach out and help others with things they struggle with by telling people what I am or have struggled with and telling them how I got through it.

However the painting part didn’t come until about 2 weeks ago. Friends, if you don’t know me, know that I can not draw and aren’t particularly artistically inclined. But I still decided to give it a shot and find a picture and maybe mimic it. Just something to get me out of my comfort zone a little bit and give myself time to be truly creative. I ended up combining 2 pictures into one, and I LOVED the outcome. I think it is beautiful and I plan to put it in our new home somewhere.

After I got my confidence up a bit, I decided to do something different. Something I envisioned and have my own idea for the second painting. It took me one day to do the back ground and let it dry, another day to do another part and let it dry and the third day to finish it. I can’t tell you how happy painting makes me, it is something I truly enjoy and time spent enjoying yourself is never wasted.

I have become more confident in myself since I started my blog and started painting. I waited so long to start my blog and start painting because I was scared of failing. I didn’t want to start a blog because I thought people wouldn’t like it, people wouldn’t want to read it and I would get negative comments about how silly or stupid it was. Also with the painting, I didn’t want to paint something and have everyone look at it and not like it or say that it looks like their 5 year old could do that and make me feel itty bitty.

But, then I saw this picture.

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and I thought to myself. . .  Yes it does, it is so hard to really try at something, I mean really give it your all because there are so many “debbie downers” out there that are just looking to put you down.

But you cant always worry about what everyone thinks, and you can’t always be open to criticism. Do what you enjoy whatever that may be, and know that I am behind you and are cheering you on! Life is so short and we should really enjoy it. We should be happy, and do things we love, and be unafraid of what others will think about us doing what we want.

I pray for confidence in all my readers and for you to have trust in yourself that you can truly do whatever you want. You just need courage and confidence that no one can bring you down, unless you let them.

With Love,

Tara

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Dealing with negative people

I know someone struggling with this right now and thought I should create a post on it.

You know, some people are mean, rude, negative, obnoxious and I am sure this list can go on and on. How do you deal with people like this? What if they work with you? What if its your neighbor? What if it’s a friend?

People become negative for so many reasons. Some people have really hard lives growing up and take “being soft” for weakness. Some are going through really tough times (for example family deaths or divorce). Some may have a bad home life and just take it out on anyone they can.

But know that truly happy people aren’t mean to other happy people. Don’t let anyone ever turn you in to a negative or mean person. Life is so beautiful and should be enjoyed.

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If this is someone who acts this way all the time to everyone, I would just try to avoid them. If this is someone you have to be in contact with or if you think its only you they are like this to read below.

I don’t quite know how to tell you to deal with them, so I will just tell you what I would do.

First, if they were mean or rude I would simple ask, “Have I done something to offend you, you act like your mad at me”. Some people don’t realize the toll they are taking on others by being rude or hateful. That way after you ask, you will know for sure if they are being how they are because of something you did, or if they are just taking it out on you. By asking a question like this you are nicely asking them why they are acting like they are to you, and telling them that you don’t like it.

If you don’t say something and let it continue, eventually you will be bitter and rude towards them and possible other standby’s which will then turn, be bitter towards you and so the cycle continues. .

If they say it is something you’ve done, then you two should probably have a conversation about that to resolve it. If its something else, be the nice one, ask if there is anything you can do to help (whether it be letting them vent or whatever their needs may be). Chances are if you are being honestly nice and caring and genuinely asking to help them they might re-evaluate themselves and try harder to not take it out on you.

Like I said, I am not sure if this will work or not but its worth a shot. I am not telling anyone to be a push over or let people be mean to you, but generally when your kind to others, they are kind to you, I know that is not always the case but it has worked for me in the past. When you ask this question, don’t come at them with attitude and sarcasm. Be genuine.

I have a poll below that will tell you the answers others have chosen. It is fixed so you are allowed to choose 2 answers.

 

I hope this blog post helps you with what you are going through.

With Love,

 

Tara

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New Year, New Blog Format!

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Hello Friends,

I hope everyone is doing well and having a wonderful New Years Eve. Please be safe out there and remember to always have a DD if your out drinking. If you are out and about tonight drinking and you’ve realized your DD is also drinking; please call a cab or if your a friend of mine and have my personal info call me and I will come get you.

I updated my blog for several reasons. I didn’t like that you had to scroll all they way to the bottom, and pass every single post just to see the archives, recent post, categories, tags and follow buttons. Also it looked a little crowded to me with the post’s taking the full screen, and I think with the new layout it seems more clean and crisp. There are more changes to come if I can just play with it a little longer to figure out how to work it (this is my first blog and I am very new to this).

I am thinking of changing the name of my blog but it probably wont be until I can think of something really really good. I hope everyone has enjoyed reading my posts and know that I always feel inspired when I write a post. If I don’t feel inspired, I don’t write.

I would really like to get to know my readers so I can get an idea for my audience. If you don’t mind answering the poll questions below I would really appreciate it.

With Love,

Tara

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