Never Postpone a Prompting.

I worked about 20 minutes over today and was in a rush to go to the grocery as soon as I got off. Not to mention it was my first day back at work where I took vacation time off to be off for the full week of Christmas. Needless to say it was a busy day for me. Also, I had a list of stuff to buy at the grocery store after work, and laundry to do when I got home. I am sure I looked like I was on a mission at the grocery store, zoned in and checking items off one by one, unaware of anyone around me.

I was pushing a cart FULL of groceries that included canned items, lots of dairy items that are all Dean’s products, I had household items, and more stuff that we needed plus some stuff that we wanted, like cookies, candies, and fresh produce, gum etc. (My husbands family has a dairy farm that sells all their milk to Deans, so we always buy Deans products to support them).

And a little over an hour later I was finally done grocery shopping. I pushed my cart to one of the only open lines and had to wait for about 5-ish minutes before it was my turn. I was forced to take a much needed break, I had time for my mind to wander, nothing to rush. There was nothing I could do but wait.

I was watching the mother and daughter in front of me check out. The little girl was so well behaved, she was so quiet, so cute. I can’t wait to have a family one day. I just love children, I swear they speak to my soul. The mother and daughter just looked so happy. I could also hear a young boy behind me and his mother. She sounded stressed. He seemed to be annoying her but didn’t I couldn’t figure out why, he was just being a kid, asking questions and pointing to magazines. I thought to myself I bet she is just tired, maybe she has had a stressful day like me. I didn’t want to look back at them so I just looked ahead.

Finally it was my turn to check out. I loaded everything on to the conveyor belt. The cashier got everything scanned and bagged and in my cart and after I paid she handed me my receipt. Right then I got a prompting. I needed to buy whatever this lady behind me has in her cart. At this point, I haven’t seen this lady or how much stuff she had in her cart and I was a bit worried about how much money I would need to pay. I go about 5 steps away and pretend to check my receipt so I can make a plan. I didn’t want to make this woman feel awkward or make her feel like she looked poor or needed help. I just needed to buy her groceries because I was prompted to.

I decide I am to nervous not wanting to make a scene and walk out without paying for her groceries.

As I walk out of the store I think to myself, Tara, you never postpone a prompting. Ever. The lord asked you to do this and that is what your going to do. . So I waited outside for her.

Her and her son came out and there I was, I asked ma’am, I checked out in front of you and didn’t want to make a scene or anything but I really want to buy your groceries. She was stunned. It was the deer in headlights look. She shook her head and mumbled out, are you serious? (I could see the hope in her eyes). I said yes I am very serious. If you don’t mind, how much were they? She said they were $22.00. I pulled out my wallet and gave her $30.00 and told her I hoped it helped her in some way. She looked at me smiling and asked if she could give me a hug, and there we were; two strangers hugging in a grocery store parking lot. We wished each other happy new year and we split ways.

Now, I don’t know how bad she needed that $30.00, but I can tell you I think it helped me more than her. I love to give and help others but sometimes it can be nerve-wrecking, and I am not one to make a scene. It gives me so much gratitude being able to help others.

The lord has so many jobs for all of us to do and we have to prove to him that we are willing to serve him when we are called. Even if it makes us nervous or worried about what others will think. Just remember if you feel the lord is telling you to do something, you need to do it regardless of how nervous you are about doing it.

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Be the good in the world.

With Love,

Tara

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What is Christmas really about?

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Sometimes things are just rough.

Sometimes…

Life can be hard. Family’s split up. People lose jobs. People lose loved ones. Pets get lost or pass on. Vehicles break down. House payments are missed. Neighbors are not neighborly. People preach to help others yet don’t answer the phone when they know it’s a call for help.

And the Holidays come anyway. With all the turmoil in your life, the world doesn’t stop for you or me or anyone else. We are supposed to deal with what ever is going on in our lives quietly not to disturb anyone else from their happy celebrations.

Christmas is supposed to represent such a wonderful time; the birth of Christ. Yet it has become so commercialized that it doesn’t feel like that’s what the holiday is for. It’s a burden for some families that are going through tough times and are expected to keep up with the Joneses.

Just step back and think about this, you buy a tree, lights, ornaments, and house decorations, just to get in the Christmas spirit. You are expected to have time off work which could potentially be un paid depending on your work benefits when your work place closes to celebrate Christmas. Lets not forget that you are also expected to buy gifts, and lots of them. Gifts for your children, gifts for all the children in your family, gifts for your parents, grandparents, siblings, co-workers, neighbors, and the rest of your families. It sounds to me like it has nothing to do with celebrating the birth of Christ.

Did you read scriptures about the lord? Did you help others come closer to Christ? How about just help others? Did you thank the lord for sending his only begotten son to die for our sins so many years ago? Or did you get so lost in the Christmas jumble with shopping and have so many holiday parties to go to you lost count? To be completely honest, that was me. I got so wrapped up in everything going on and really just lost sight of it all.

We don’t try to understand more about what the bible teaches us about Jesus, instead we spend all year long saving money to ruin a holiday to spend it all (Thanksgiving and the day after). When that holiday is supposed to be about being thankful for what we have. I’m not going to sit here and act like I didn’t shop on Thanksgiving night and black Friday because I did, you almost can not afford to not shop those sales since you have SO MANY people to buy for and everything is so cheap on these two days.

I can tell you next year will be different for me. I wont buy but one gift for everyone and they will all have a cap on what amount I can spend. I will volunteer for at least 10 hours somewhere, maybe a nursing home or maybe a soup kitchen. But next year I will really try to bring the spirit of Christmas to my holiday.

Instead of it being about gifts, it will be about Christ and I will put forth a real effort to make this happen.

If your not religious and that is how you want to spend your holiday then that is wonderful. I just hate looking back and regretting how I spent mine, I don’t think I honored Jesus in anything I did. I hope everyone spends their holiday how they want to instead of looking back wishing you had done it differently.

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When Discouragement Sets In

Sometimes I feel like when I have a wonderful idea, I get really excited about it and begin to make plans for this great idea. The next day I’m still really pumped up about it and start to wonder how I am going to make this great idea happen; and then all of a sudden; discouragement sets in. I feel like I can’t do it. It won’t be this big wonderful [insert whatever your idea is] but instead it will be pitiful and pathetic.

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel this way?

We have so much excitement in the very beginning and are so enthused about how great this birthday party, or plan to make this DIY project or whatever it is, is going to turn out. And slowly, we start to pick at ourselves. We lose our confidence, lose our creativity, and lose ourselves in self-doubt. We think to ourselves, no one will like this, [insert name] will think this is stupid; and we tell ourselves that we can never do these types of things.

We surrender to defeat either when it’s knocking at our doors or when it hasn’t even made it to our house yet. We tear ourselves down. And you know what. . .

It’s time to stop.

Stop being so negative, stop doubting yourself, stop doubting others, stop criticizing yourself to every person you know. Let’s stop all the comparison. He is different from her, and she is different from him and they’re both different from you.

You can do anything that you think you can do. Cliché I know, but true.

Think to yourself, have you ever completed a project or task that you honestly thought you could not do. One that you tore yourself down the whole way through and criticized everything you did because you thought every single person should like it. You didn’t give yourself pep talks or tell yourself you could do this. When discouragement knocked at the door, you offered it to come right on in.

We do this every day without even thinking about it.  We need to tell ourselves that we can do this task along with anything else that comes our way. If you don’t know the answers, look them up or ask someone who may know. Talk yourself through things and my personal favorite is to pray. I pray for things like confidence and determination. I pray for Heavenly Father to guide me for the best way to complete these types of tasks. I pray that when I am done, that I will be able to feel a sense of accomplishment and that I will be able to help others with the same type of task should they ask for my help.

If self-doubt is something you struggle with, please check one of my other blog post’s What do you see in the mirror? You should find it very helpful along with this post.

♥As always, new follower friends, any comments you have, and likes are always welcome here ♥

With Love,

Tara

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What Do You See In The Mirror?

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Friends, I know when I look in the mirror I think to myself all the things I would change, and have changed. I think about how I should have spent more time on my hair, or that I should have started working out like 5 months ago. Friends I want you to do something for me.

Sometime today, I want you to look in the mirror and try really hard to appreciate all the wonderful things about you that you cannot see.

Friends, you have so many wonder gifts and talents that the Lord has given you; let’s take a step back together so that you can take two steps forward.

It might be hard starting off, since society teaches us to criticize ourselves, but just give it a try. You can do this. If you can only think of one thing, its okay. Start off every morning or night, look at yourself in the mirror, and find one more thing to add.

It finally dawned on me that once you’re comfortable with your inner self, then you can finally start to be comfortable with your outer self. When you can look at yourself in the mirror and can see all the good that in in your heart/spirit, then you can really appreciate your body.

If you think about it your body is just a shell that holds your spirit. We gain bodies when we come to earth to be born, and we leave them when we “die”. It is my belief that our spirit lives on to go to heaven.

Our bodies are made for us perfectly by God. Just think about that for a second. He made you Perfectly.  To impress God we don’t need to add more makeup to our tired eyes, or change our hair color. We don’t need to change one single thing, to God your body is perfect, just they way he created it.

Jeremiah 1:5  Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. (Psalms 139:14 is a good one too. Its pictured above).

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When you see all the wonderful gifts and talents you have inside, you can become more confident. You can become a whole new you.

Friend, you have breathtaking eyes, and your hair is amazing, you are just the right height, your arms are beautiful, your freckles/moles are cute, and your stomach is equally beautiful. You need to notice all the beautiful features you have, don’t act like they’re nothing to be proud of.

You are beautiful, inside and out. You might not see it now, but I can see it in you.

And I think its worth a second look in the mirror. See yourself for you, not for what society tells you that you need to be or look like.

With Love,

Tara

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When Forgiveness Doesn’t Come

Let all be honest here. We have all done something that requires us to say we are sorry; and most of the time, we get an acceptance of our apology and are able to move on.

Sometimes, it’s not that easy and you have to beg for forgiveness until you are granted the much needed acceptance of your apology.

Other times you beg and pray for them to forgive you and you never get their forgiveness. Their hearts are hardened and they want nothing to do with you.

Friends I have been in both boats here and neither are fun to ride in.

Forgiveness is such a key element in our daily lives and most of us look right past it.  Just because someone isn’t sorry for something they have done to you doesn’t mean you can’t forgive them.  It is so important to forgive others even when they’re not sorry and its important to forgive ourselves when others wont forgive us. 

When you ask for forgiveness and truly mean it and never get forgiveness, you need to forgive yourself.  You need to know that God will forgive you even if the person your so desperately seeking to wont. . God will forgive you for all your mistakes when you accept him into your life. But if you don’t forgive others you can not be forgiven. The following scriptures are from Matthew 6:14-15   Click Here to view the scriptures online

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Forgiveness will set you free.

Friends, don’t let anything stand in the way of your happiness and eternal salvation. Know that I am rooting for you. I am cheering you on and you can count on me. Yes I have too let people down in the past, but that’s what is so wonderful about the past. It’s the PAST! You can renew your faith and become a better person by taking a small step each day.

Know that I am praying for you. If you would like me to talk to you more in depth about this post I would be happy to, please comment with your email address so we can correspond. Please know that I don’t have all the answers, and I’m learning new things everyday. But I will share all my knowledge with you to help you get to a better place.

Just remember, when you have no one, don’t forget that you still have God.

With Love,

 

Tara

 

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What’s your outlook?

To save some time I will make a long story short. My husband accidentally hit my car this morning and ended up driving it to work instead of his truck, leaving me to drive my brother’s car today.  I still haven’t seen it but am told that it is still drivable with minimal damage. However, I have told a few people about it at and almost everyone says something along the line of how mad they thought I would be or if it happened to their wife they would be in the dog house for a while or at least until it got fixed.

Friends, let me tell you why I wasn’t mad. . . It is just a car.  If thing don’t work out with this one, I can go get another one, or have what doesn’t work fixed. Cars are everywhere and most certainly replaceable. I know this little accident could have been prevented, but it wasn’t and it’s ok. Justin made a mistake. I cannot tell you how many times I have went to do something I have done a thousand times before and messed it up just for the fact I was rushing, or had other things on my mind.

Even if I did get mad and blow up about what happened, it changes nothing. My car would still damaged, his truck would still at my parents’ house, I would have still driven my brother’s car and I would still be looking to get estimates to fix it tomorrow. However, I can change the outlook on it. So let’s take a step back and look at this again.

My husband was not hurt at all. He could have been standing right where he was about 5 seconds before his truck went in to my car in that same spot. I should be thankful it hit my car and not my husband and I should be thankful there were other vehicles to drive so that I was able to go to work also. He tells me if he was standing there he could have stopped it, but I’m not so sure. I’m just thankful he wasn’t there to find out if he really could have.

Friends let’s not let things like this ruin our day, because we still have our families, or our friends, or homes, and we always have our God. There are so many things to be thankful for in this life and in our daily lives that we should try to see our “burdens” as blessings. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and although I might not know that reason, I know that God is in control.

With Love

Tara

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But. . . I want it

Friends, today I would like to talk about marriage/relationships and the link between love and material items. It just seemed fitting with today being me and my husband’s 2 year wedding anniversary. I want to share a couple examples with you.

Before we got engaged, we went shopping for engagement rings so that he could get a feel for what I wanted. After all, I was going to be the one wearing it for the rest of my life and I should be happy with it. Now 2 years later, its not that I don’t love my engagement ring, because I do, I just think to myself and wonder if this is what he wanted to get me. This ring is a symbol of his love for me, not my love for him. Its not to show every one else that I am married, its for him to show me his commitment to me for the rest of our lives.

When we used to get each other gifts we would give each other lists (literally) of items we wanted so the other one could look around and decide what they wanted to get us off these lists.

When he worked extra late during the week and full days on weekends, I would begin to feel lonely, so I would do a little retail therapy to bring my spirits up, besides who doesn’t need another couch blanket or more picture frames?

This is the last one. Since before we even got married I have wanted a ring for our 10 year anniversary. I have looked for it every jewelry store we go to, and I put it on every “wish list” at every store that offers this type of ring. I have even thought about it on my hand and what it would look like, to even how big the diamonds should be. This is the ring. Its at the Shane Company listed for $1,795.

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I know that I don’t need this ring to be happy. I don’t need my car, my house, my clothes, or anything else to be happy. All I need is Justin.

Starting about 7 or 8 months ago when my cousin Rachel came into town, I have started taking steps back and looking at the big picture. My cousin was pregnant and just moved here with her husband after being states away for a couple years (which seemed like forever). We actually used to live together growing up and were so close. Then we graduated high school, went to different colleges (which was when she moved) and had a really hard time keeping in touch. So when she came back to KY we were like stuck at the hip practically. However I don’t bring up Rachel just to tell you how awesome she is, even though that’s true. I bring her up because I learned so many valuable lessons from her and she doesn’t even know it. Rachel and her husband lived in a 2 bedroom loft apartment and they didn’t have a TV or internet. (I thought to my self how do these people function??) They had two dogs they played with and took on lots of walks, bought everything second hand, lived very modestly and most importantly, they had God. They prayed at every restaurant before eating, and I don’t mean bow your head silently squeeze my hand when you’re done, I am talking about praying out loud while holding hands. it was so refreshing. They were so happy with each other, and with life, and that was with out shopping at TJ Max or Kohl s every other weekend.

They were happy with each other, they didn’t need material items to show they cared about each other. They knew they loved each other by their actions, not their gifts. When she felt lonely, she called him to talk and tell him she missed him and that she wished he could come home. When she needed new clothes for her expanding tummy she went to second hand stores and bought everything she needed during a “dollar sell” which means every thing is a dollar. Not to mention more than half of the items she bought still had the tags on them! She has taught me that I don’t need this ring, even though we have hit a major milestone, and the fact that I want it, it does not change anything. It just another ring, that will go on my right hand, and although I want it really bad, I certainly don’t need it to feel loved. I know that my husband loves me and would do anything in his might to make me happy as I would for him.

Friends, are we living within our means, and even if we are, do we really need all these things? Do we really need that large 10 stone ring to feel loved and happy? Or does our spouse make us feel loved and happy anyway and its society that is telling us we need it. Don’t get to far in worldly possessions that we feel like we just have to have them. Be humble. Look at your husband or your wife tonight. Just look at them and think of all the wonderful things you love about them. You have your spouse at your side all the time, don’t think for a second you need any item more than you need them or their love. They are a gift from God, and should be cherished as one.

With Love,

Tara

Also, we got anniversary pictures done yesterday! Too excited about them not to share them with everyone. My sister did such an amazing job and she is located in Frankfort. You can get to her photography facebook page here!

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Where are you, Friend?

Are you doing what you always thought you would do? Are you working at your “dream” job? Are you happy working where you’re at? What if you’re happy but it’s still not where you want to be? What if you’re not happy at all? Do you consider yourself a success, or a failure? What about your friend’s job that you wish you had? What about your friend’s house? Don’t forget about all those vacations you never get to take.

Friend, let me tell you about me. I am not doing what I always imagined, I’m not at my “dream” job, I don’t make tons of money, and I still dream about my “dream” job (which happens to be a stay at home mom with an at home daycare). But friends, when we accept Heavenly father, he is on our side and we tend to view life a little differently after accepting him. Every day when I go to work, instead of thinking about how much I would love to have some children right now and be at home with them and teaching them all kinds of things and playing with them on snow days. . . I think of something else. . .

I think to myself, I am so thankful to have a job, to help provide for me and my husband. I am thankful for co-workers who have become more like family to me, and I am thankful to have a great boss. I am so thankful to come to work every day and enjoy my job. Don’t get me wrong, there are aspects of my job I do not like; however, I choose to be thankful for them instead of dwelling over getting those particular tasks done. Since doing so I have become so much more efficient and have gotten particularly good at those tasks, and now they take me no time to complete. Even though I still don’t enjoy them, at least I don’t hate them anymore.

But friends’, trying to get you to be thankful for your job (in our economy) was not my mission on this post. Even though you should with un-employment rates how they are. My mission for this post was to tell you to be happy with who you are and what God has blessed you with and to live with love in your heart. Also, to tell/show you how to be thankful for things you don’t like. To you your blessings may not seem like much, but let’s take a step back and look again.

Do you have children, family, pets, a church family, a job, people who depend on you for your help, material items, and a place to call home? But most importantly do you have love? (Not to be confused with a love life, but do you live your life with love?)

Friends, stop comparing yourself to one another. It’s only when you stop doing this that you will be able to be truly happy with what God has blessed you with.

Friends, be happy with the person you are, be happy with the life you have. Be happy with your choices in the past because they have made you who you are today. Choose happiness, choose to love others. Think about all your accomplishments, they are not small victories but those are real accomplishments and you should be proud of them. Don’t wish to be someone else, God made you perfectly in his eyes.

We have to stop wishing we could be celebrities, or have our friend’s life. Two of the Ten Commandments that I think apply to this post are Thou shall not covet and Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image.  To covet is to not be thankful for what you have and wish you had what others have, for example, cars, jobs, houses, and clothing etc. And to make unto thee any graven image would be like replacing God with other idols such as money, material possessions, ideas, or status.

Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses. Stop comparing yourself and your life to others and how much better their life is. Be humble and thankful for what you have in life and if you are truly unhappy try to change what you can. Pray for opportunities to make those changes in your life. God has blessed every one of us with special talents and we shouldn’t let them go to waste. God does love you and he knows your name.

Friends, be thankful for what you have, and be thankful for what God has given.  If what I am saying is a whole new world to you, use baby steps, but know that you can get there.

With Love

Tara

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So… you’re tired

So… you’re tired

Friend, I soooo get it. Really, I do. You have a busy life, busy job, maybe even a second busy job, children, and family that love you and demand your attention when in your presence. Your world seems non stop and spinning in all different circles and some days you’re not so sure you will make it to tomorrow to even get through it when it comes all too early and only a few short hours from now. After all you still have things to do today.

When we are looking at our lives as obstacles, and life’s blessings as challenges, and our families as burdens… What life are we living? We aren’t living in the past, present, or future. Were living in a different dimension. We are taking our life for granted and aren’t really living at all. Even with all the chaos in your life, you can get past this. You can get past today, you can get past tomorrow, and you can make it to next week.

However, it might not be a piece of cake and you might have to try to have good days sometimes. But my friend, baby steps is what you need. When we wake up in the morning with lists longer than hours in the day, and you know once you start you wont be stopping until many many hours later here’s what you should do. When you open your eyes in the morning, thank the lord above for your life, thank him for your job, for your family, or for a place to call home. Thank our lord for life’s simplest blessings because my friend, they are truly blessings. On your way to work every morning for one week thank the lord for the sunrise that he provides every day, for the beautiful tree coloring, for having transportation to a job or taking your children to school so they don’t have to ride the bus. After your week is over re-evaluate yourself and see if you feel like a more positive person.

Try to see the positive in all the negative. It might be hard at first, but it will get easier with time. This life is so beautiful and so amazing. Friend, you are amazing, please know that you can do this, you’re not alone, and I am here praying for you.

With Love,

Tara

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Meet Tara

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Welcome to my blog!

My name is Tara, and that is my husband Justin. We have been married for two years on the 10th and have been together for 10 years on the 12th.

A little about me is that I love kids, crafts, sewing, the color pink, John Deere tractors, cooking, baking, date nights, hoodies, road trips, DIY-ing, vacations, nail polish, church, shoes,  anything chocolate, anything sweet and that is just the beginning. We just purchased a home, and are completely remodeling it ourselves with the help of our wonderful families. We don’t have children yet but plan on it in the future, in the mean time I have plenty of nieces(1) and nephews(3) to play with.

I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I love being a member of this church and living the gospel. I love helping others learn from my life’s lessons. If I can save you some heartache by telling you my hard lessons; then I’m glad I could help you out! I love knowing I have a wonderful church family that loves and stands behind me.

We are normal laid back country people. My husband grew up on a dairy farm and his family still runs it today, (which we will buy in to eventually). We love having bonfires, riding four-wheeler s and dirt bikes, going to tractor pulls, rodeo’s, and having picnic’s on the farm watching the sunset (which was how he proposed to me!) and pretty much everything in between.

I will be blogging about pretty much everything, and I hope you enjoy this ride with me.

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